Attachments style

There are four different types of attachment styles

Attachment Styles and Healing

Our attachment styles are often formed between birth and age two, shaped by how our caregivers responded to our emotional needs. These early patterns can influence how we connect with others later in life.

Secure Attachment:
Develops when caregivers are consistently responsive, nurturing, and attuned. These individuals tend to feel confident in relationships, balancing independence with emotional closeness.

Anxious Attachment:
Often stems from inconsistent or unpredictable caregiving. Individuals may crave closeness but fear rejection or abandonment, which can lead to trust issues and emotional highs and lows.

Avoidant Attachment:
Forms when caregivers are emotionally distant or unresponsive. These individuals may suppress their emotions, struggle with vulnerability, and tend to distance themselves in relationships.

Disorganized Attachment:
Usually rooted in early trauma or fear-based caregiving. There’s a push-and-pull dynamic—wanting closeness but fearing it at the same time—leading to inner conflict and relational confusion.

The Good News:
While early experiences shape our attachment styles, they don’t have to define us. Through self-awareness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), intentional relationships, and inner child work, it's possible to move toward a more secure attachment style. This involves learning to trust ourselves and others while creating healthy boundaries and deeper emotional safety.